2014 only has hours left and I have mixed feelings about how it went. I had my ups and downs. I aced two anatomy classes, my baby grew way too quickly, we started to build our first house, my mom had a serious health concern, and I felt stretched very thin. But every experience is something to learn from, to grow from. So, I wanted to write out my 2015 goals.... they aren't new but ones I've been trying to implement lately.
1. Stop Taking Responsibility For Other People's Actions
I have a nasty habit of feeling so responsible for other peoples actions. I always feel like I have to be on alert when certain people are in a room together that I know have tension - as if it's my responsibility to make it okay. I need to STOP that! I can only worry about my actions.
2. Make More Of An Effort
I will be the first to admit that I dropped the ball on a lot of things this year while trying to pick up a bunch more. My friendships have suffered. Now that school is over for the time being I will make a giant effort to clear my schedule for visits, I will make an effort to send that first text message/e-mail/phone call. I cherish my friends.
3. PUT DOWN MY PHONE
I have a feeling this will be on a lot of peoples lists this year, and it's a good one! We are always so wrapped up in our phones/social media we are missing the world around use while we catch up on how everyone else is living their lives! I plan to keep my phone out of my hand during the day. I'll still have it on since we don't have a house phone, but no social media app's will be opened.
4. More Tea, Less Wine
I feel some people cringing when they read that. Don't get me wrong, I loveeeee my wine, and I appreciate quality wine. But, let's be realistic, I don't need it every night. So my goal is to have more tea at night, which will help me sleep, help my wallet out, and is better for my health.
Now I'm cringing. I hate laundry. I know a lot of you do too, but not only do I hate it, I don't do it. I let it pile up on the floor until my husband gets sick of it and does it for me. At almost 29, you think I wouldn't leave my clothes around like a 12 year old, but I do. I am slowly, and will continue to, work on my laundry habits. . .
6. "Do What I Can" Attitude
I am a very all or nothing kinda girl. I usually lean more to the all side but sometimes I'm more on the nothing side. Like with exercise. If I miss my workout in the morning I figure the day is lost. But my new attitude is that it's not all lost, even if I get in 10 minutes of that 30 minute workout, it's better than nothing.
7. Let 'Em Be Messy
I have a hard time letting my son get messy. My mother makes fun of me saying that I am going to wipe my son's skin right off his face when I clean up after lunch. I am going to search out some fun toddler activities and try them....no matter if they are messy! If there is paint...then we will paint *cringe*. If there is water, then let the flood gates open. You get the idea.
8. The Dentist
I am terrified of the dentist. I haven't been in YEARS. I know it's so bad not to go, and I know I need some work done, but I can't get myself to make the call. So after the first of the year, since it's kinda late now, I will be making that appointment. I may have to take some Xanax, but by-golly I will have my tush in that ugly green pleather chair before my birthday.
9. Grow This Blog
Now that I'm back blogging, and have a renewed love for it, it's time to grow it. Last night I hit 60k views. It as such a great way to end 2014. But I have bigger goals for this little piece of the internet. I will be more active in social media, consistent blogging, and growing relationships in the bloggy world.
10. Not Letting My Blog Take Over Family Time
I think that's why I stopped blogging back in April, it was taking time away from my family. I was all-consumed in making money with my blog, which I did, that I forgot why I started and my family was suffering. I have rid my page of my PR/Advertise section and I'm only focusing on growing it right now.
11. Love My Fur-Babies
Since having Bubs my fur-babies have taken a back seat. I feel so horrible but I heard that it is very normal for this to happen. Fortunately, one of my babies, my precious, loving princess, still sleeps next to my face every night. I vow to them, to give them more of my attention and love. They deserve it and need it.
12. Go Outside More!
Here, in Maine, it get's cold in
August September. It can make it hard to go outside with a little one, but it's not good for anyone's health or psyche to stay inside all the time. Right now, as I write this, it is 8 degrees outside. But on those rare Maine winter days where the sun is shinning and it's 39 degrees, I will bundle my babe up in the stroller and go out for some fresh air. And when it snows, we will try out his new snow gear!
13. Let Go
We are moving to our newly constructed house this spring and we have an entire townhouse to pack up. This is my chance to purge things that I don't need/use/want. I didn't really have a chance when we got married to go through my stuff since my mother moved me out while were in Maui on our honeymoon. This is my chance to get rid of things. Start fresh in our new home without clutter and junk.
14. Me Time
When you're a mom and a wife it can be very hard to find time for yourself. When my husband is home the last thing I want to do is leave and go do something for myself. No, I'd rather be home with my family. But I have found that even if it's picking up my camera and going to shoot the sunrise for an hour, getting my much needed split ends chopped off, or going to my mom's sans baby, it's good for my mental health. And it's okayyy! It doesn't mean I don't love being with my family. No, it mean's that I love my family enough to rejuvenate my mind so they don't have the wrath of a tired, cooped-up mom on their hands.
15. Have Fun!
This should be everyone's goals. Just have fun. This year will go by as fast as every other. You will have ups and downs. You will succeed at some of your goals and will fail at others. It's okay. What happens in your life is what makes up who you are. If you find the positive in each day and learn to laugh during the hard times, things will be easier, I promise. So try to have fun, realize 2015 is just a number, not a defining moment in time.