What No One Told you About {The First Week of Being A New Mom}

This is the third and final part of What No One Told You
We have already talked about the joys of pregnancy and the not so pretty bodily functions that are associated with it. And we chatted about the unmodest side of delivery. So now we will finish up by talking about what the first few weeks hold with baby and what no one told you!
You Won't Know What To Do With Baby
When you first walk into your house after delivering your baby, you just won't know what to do. I'm sure you had all these plans set in your mind, but trust me they fly out the door faster than your post-delivery body walks through it. Let's think about this for a second. For the last few days you had nurses, doctors, and family helping you with the baby. And when you weren't being helped with baby you were being poked and prodded, visited, talked with the nurses, and had family. So you were never bored. But once you get home, and the baby is sleeping, you will feel like you need to do something or that you are forgetting something. Trust me, you're NOT! So take this time when baby is sleeping, and catch some ZzZz's yourself!
You will not only get pee'd on but....
 You will get pooped on too! I know it's gross, but I never thought it would happen to me! I never thought I'd have to clean it off the wall. But there we were, my husband and I, fumbling around with our 6 day old's diaper, and he apparently had some pressure built up, and let it go. It went off the table onto the adjacent wall, strafing the carpet and my husband all in one push! So be warned....it happens, other mothers just don't want to admit it! 
(This tid-bit came straight from my husband when asked "what was something no one told us")

You Will Not Sleep...even if baby does!
The first few nights our baby slept pretty well. I am associating that with the fact that he was so traumatized from delivery that he slept, hoping he would wake back up in the womb. But I didn't sleep a wink. I kept peeking over to make sure he was breathing. Make sure he was covered enough, but not too much that he would over heat. I kept waiting for that darn blue line on his Huggies to appear, telling me he had pee'd then wondering if I should wake him to change him. You will be a nervous wreck, and that is okay. I had wished a nurse could have come home with us that first week!
It's Okay To Say No To Visitors!
 This one can be a hard one (not for me sine I shut the world out when I got home) since so many people want to come and see your precious little baby. You might feel obligated to oblige. But seriously, just say no! I mean this too! You just had a baby either pushed out of your whooha or cut out of you. You are still bleeding, learning to nurse, probably haven't showered in a few days, and haven't even thought about laundry, dishes, or clean undies. People will understand. And you will never get those first few days back with just your new little family. So soak them up and turn off the phone, don't answer the door, and just snuggle :)
You might become depressed
I am sure this is something that your OB/Midwife talked about, but every mom thinks it will never happen to me! and go about their pregnancy. Well, it is something that can sneak up on you and have a hold of you before you realize what you are feeling isn't normal. So please take a moment and assess how you are feeling. If you are feeling down, talk to someone. Please read my post about my battle with postpartum depression here
You 'Plans' Will Go Out The Window
 Your plans for not co-sleeping, strictly breastfeeding, or something of the like, will probably change. I had swore up and down I would NEVER co-sleep but when by boy lost a lot of weight and we had to supplement with formula (again something I would never let happen), he had a hard time sleeping. So my formula fed baby slept right next to me for the first 3 weeks. That's the beauty about being the parent. You get to decide what is right for your baby. Don't let others tell you what you should or should not do. If I had let people tell me not to give formula, my baby would have starved to death. So Momma, go with your gut about how you parent!
It May Not Feel Real
When you first bring your baby home, you are exhausted, excited, sore, and in love. But after a few days, and the routine sets in, you might get this feeling that it isn't real. When I brought my boy home, I had this odd feeling that I would wake up and he wouldn't be there and I would still be pregnant. It takes a while to sink in, and that is okay! It will eventually, just give it time.
It Takes Two...
To change a diaper! No seriously, especially if you have a boy and he had his manly procedure (then good ol' Vaseline gets involved). It took both my husband and I to change my boys' diaper for the first two weeks. My husband would hold his legs, and I got to clean. We quickly learned (after being sprayed a few times) to lay a wipe across his boy parts, so if he did spray, it went into the wipe and not on us! But it was such a bonding experience. When I would say to my husband "he's pee'd" he would get right up from what he was doing and we would all head upstairs to change the diaper. And to this day (5 months later) we change the same amount of diapers, and my son LOVES diaper changing time!
Life Goes On
 This was a hard one for me to grasp. I spent 17 hours in labor, 3 days in the hospital (because we had him late at night), and were so over-whelemed with being new parents, we forgot that the outside world didn't stop. I still had to deal with work (maternity leave), I had to make sure all my son's paperwork was in order, and my husband had to make sure he was ready for the fast approaching lobstering season. It is easy to think because your life has stopped for those few short days, that everyone else's has too. But they haven't. You have to play catch up once you have your feet back on the ground. So enlist help to get it all done. Have someone go to the store for you since your milk expired, or hold the baby so you can make phone calls...it is okay
It's Okay to Take A Break
You deserve it! Even if it is for 20 minutes, have your mom, friend, aunt, husband, whoever you trust, take your baby for a few minutes. You have been through 10 months of pregnancy, then expelled a baby from your uterus! My husband and I took our first 'date night' when my boy was 3 weeks old. We went to a small Italian restaurant and my mother watched him. It was so rejuventaing. So take a break, and don't feel guilty...I know you are, just thinking about it...but you have to take care of yourself so you can take care of your baby!
You Will Fumble
 Nothing will go as planned. You can read all of this and it may not pertain, and maybe it will. Everyone has their own experience. The ONLY thing I can absolutely guarantee is that the time will fly too quickly and you will miss it once it's gone. So please take a ton of pictures (I took over 2,000 in the first month! Oh and make sure you back them up!!), soak up the moments with your little one, do not forget about your husband, and enjoy these moments!
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6 comments:

  1. Wonderful advice! When it was time to get discharged from the hospital, I couldn't believe that they were actually sending me home with a baby! Everything that you said above is so true and I hope that expecting moms will read it so that they can be prepared.

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    1. Thank you Becky! I said the same thing "they are sending us home with a baby!?" But Id do it all over again in a heartbeat!

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  2. Great tips and very true.
    Angela @ Time with A & N

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  3. These are all so true. It is hard adjusting to a baby and every baby is different. Thank you for sharing.

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    1. Christy ou re so right! it has hard to adjust, I can only imagine how it will be once we have our second!

      Thanks :):)
      ~Victoria

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