Tiger Stripes and Jello | How Pregnancy Changes Your Body



I'm not talking about the tiger stripes you get from a bad self-tanning job, or the amount of jello you craved while you grew your little bundle of joy. No I am talking about stretch marks, your gelatinous  belly and so much more.

From the moment of conception your body starts to go through some major transformations. Things start to shift, grow, and distort. During pregnancy your ever-changing body is beautiful. It is a sign that you are growing such a miracle. You probably even took weekly pictures to see how much you've grown. You embrace those stretch marks as a reminder that your baby is making room inside you. But what you aren't prepared for is the aftermath of pregnancy and what it does to your body.

Basically you are just a human incubator and your baby is using you as a host. It will suck every nutrient out of you and cause havock on your body. It is all cute until you're left with what was once a nice belly bump but is now just a thick saggy mound of jello. Your stretch marks are now just sad squiggles down jello mountain.

A lot of women are told not to worry about the weight that they gained since they will lose it very quickly after birth, especially if they are nursing. It will "fall right off". Well that is a LIE! It will not fall right off, you will not go directly back into your "pre-pregnancy jeans". Nope! You will lose a bunch of weight just from expelling your baby and all it's fluids, but that's about it. You will go home from the hospital still looking pregnant, just a little more deflated than when you were admitted. Even if you are able to lose all your weight, chances are you will have to invest in new clothes. Your body has changed. Your hips are now wider, and may stay that way, and things have shifted that may never shift back.

Not only do you have a new baby, but you have a new body. When I complain to my husband that I still have a belly and my clothes don't fit 5 months postpartum, he quickly reminds me that it took 10 months for my body to change, so I can't expect it to change back over night. He is so right! It took 10 months to gain 25 pounds, so why did I think it would just vanish in a mere 2 weeks?

I think we have such unreal expectations of how our body is supposed to preform after child birth. We see celebrities that are back to their oh so skinny self two days after giving birth. Well if I could pay thousands to have a little tummy tuck after delivery, I would look thin too! But that is not normal. As mothers we are in such competition with other moms (which is sad). We are always comparing ourselves to each other with who lost the weight the fastest, who is in their pre-pregnancy clothes first. I say WHO CARES?! Seriously, I gained weight for the health of my child, and I am spending more time worrying about taking care of him than if I can fit back into my jeans. I must give Princess Kate kudos for baring her postpartum belly bump to the world. She still looked pregnant, but she didn't care, she embraced it!

I am not saying that it is easy to look at yourself after giving birth and not cringe. Do I like my stretch marks or my sagging belly? No, but I didn't get it from eating McDonald's, I got it from creating a life. I think we forget how and why we got like this. We should be looking at ourselves in the mirror and be proud of the way we look! We gave up our body's for our precious little babies. We did it for them, and they are forever thankful! And in time the stretch marks will fade and your belly will shrink.... just in time to have another!


26 comments:

  1. Hey Victoria, I'm a new follower from the GFC hop. My friend, who's preggers right now with her second baby, swears by Cocoa Butter! have you tried it? But I agree, you've earned your stripes :)

    I'd love it if you can follow me back :)

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    1. Ochi thanks for stopping by!! I will have to try that! I'll hop on over to your blog :):)

      ~Victoria

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  2. You're so right. Especially after having twins, there is just absolutely no way that my body will ever go back to what it looked like pre-pregnancy without a little help from a plastic surgeon. Most days it doesn't bother me anymore, but other times it does. Like when I'm in the dance studio and I get those questioning eyes... :/

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    1. I couldn't imagine what my body would look like after twins! I be you look fabulous and thats great that you are dancing :):)

      ~Victoria

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    2. Thank you! I have always been a dancer. It's something I'm passionate about and I refuse to give it up just because some people think I don't have a dancer's body. :)

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  3. I completely agree that there's so much pressure to bounce right back after having a baby. I kept reminding myself that it took 9-10 months to put on the weight, it should take a similar amount of time to take it off. Why should it come off in 2 weeks?? I've learned to appreciate the changes in my body and the marks because it reminds me of the amazing things that our bodies are capable of.

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    1. What a great outlook! I wish more women would appreciate what their body has done for them instead of hating it!

      ~Victoria

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  4. Seriously woman, you are in my head! Ha! I've been working on a post about mother's bodies and weight loss for about a month now! Babies are supposed to change us...I'm happy to read you are embracing the stretch and the sway! :) I am!

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    1. Andrea great minds think alike!! I really enjoy all your posts! Yup I had no choice but to embrace it if I ever wanted to be happy. No point in wasting time on something that I can't fix right away. I can't wait to read your post about body image :):)

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  5. Even though I lost the weight after the first two(not the third, but we won't go there), my body was still different after giving birth.

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    1. Thats great you lost the weight! I think most women don't realize that it's not just weight gain but your body will permanently shift. So even when I get back to my pre-pregnancy weight, my shape will be drastically different!

      ~Victoria

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  6. Such a good point and so hard to remember sometimes. In the end, being healthy far outweighs stretch marks and a number on the scale. But it is still something I remind myself.

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    1. I totally agree that your health outweighs stretch marks! :):)

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  7. While I didn't get stretch marks on my belly, or even at all during both of my pregnancy's, I did get them when my milk came in around my boobs. NOT what I was expecting!! They have faded now, and I will admit sometimes they make me cringe but for the most part they don't bother me. The jiggly tummy though? I don't like that one, but then I think, you know, I grew two babies in there, a little jiggle is just fine!

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    1. Thats awesome that you didn't get any stretch marks on your belly. I got some on my boobs too! Crazy! I figure with my belly jiggle, that my body just wants to remember how wonderful it was being pregnant ;)

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  8. I love the idea of tiger stripes, and I do have plenty of those. I was one of those women who bounced right back, until I had #3. Now that I've had #4, and she's almost 3, I've kind of accepted that those days are over, lol.

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    1. Shannon thanks for stopping by! I think that is the hardest part, accepting that your body has changed for good. It will never be exactly what it was like before pregnancy.

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  9. I earned my tiger stripes with my first one thanks to pre-eclampsia with edema that caused a weight gain of 68 pounds in a matter of a few weeks. It was awful but I wear them proudly. The other 5 kids only added minor ones to it but after number 6, who is the only girl, nothing went back like it was before when it had with the boys.

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    1. I am so happy you wear them proudly! I got mine toward the end of pregnancy when I landed myself on bed rest. You def. earned them after 6 kids! I'd be showing them off if I were you :)

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  10. Pregnancy is the development of one or more offspring, known as an embryo or fetus, in a woman's uterus. It is the common name for gestation in humans. A multiple pregnancy involves more than one embryo or fetus in a single pregnancy, such as with twins.
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  11. Victoria, nice share. I really like the information shared here. I've got stripe during my pregnancy time and I've used a Johnson's product to remove the stripes.

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