Four Months In {Adjusting to being a SAHM}

4 months ago I gave birth to the most precious boy I could have ever imagined. If you have been following my blog, you will know that I really struggled with the idea and reality of quitting my job as a teacher to be a stay at home mom (if you haven't check out my post here). It really hit me today when I saw all the posts on Facebook and other social media outlets of teachers going back into their classrooms, meeting the students on the first day, and getting back together as a faculty. As I sat here in my pajamas with my baby napping on my chest, I struggled with the idea that this is my new normal. This was my everyday; my new full-time job. I have found a routine with my boy that varies from day to day, sometimes hour to hour. I have come to terms with the fact that I do not need to be pulling in a paycheck every week to contribute to my family.

These past few months have not been easy, but they haven't been hard either. It has been so different, more so than I would have ever imagined. I strive for continuity, and that is what I loved so much about working. I would go into the classroom and my day was run by a bell schedule. I knew what I was to do every moment I was within those brick walls. Now, I take every moment at a time. I have had to learn to let go of what I thought I wanted and embrace what I now have.

It has been amazing! Once I made the decision to stay home I felt such a weight lifted off my shoulders.  I don't have to worry about my child going to day care (not that there is anything wrong with those who have too), and my husband really truly supports me staying home. My boy has taught me so much about myself since we have been home this summer. He, at 4 months, has taught me flexibility, patience, and the ability to accept help.

At this point, I could never imagine going back to work with young children. I can't imagine missing even one moment. Over the past few months we have done so much together. We have gone to the beach (which he hated!), we have done cookouts (where he slept the entire time), went to the aquarium in Boston (that was more for me), and gone for many walks (which he does enjoy!), and we have just cuddled for hours (which is our favorite thing to do!)

My house is no longer pristine as it was 5 months ago, I do not shower every day, and sometimes I have to smell my clothes to make sure they are clean since laundry doesn't get done like it used too. But that is all part of adjusting to my new life as a SAHM. I will find a balance someday, but I don't struggle with that so much anymore, I just focus on the moments with my boy, since they go by so fast.




What I would have missed if I had been at work.... this makes it ALL worth it! 
 
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7 comments:

  1. You are very lucky you can be a SAHM! I wish I was. Enjoy every moment with your gorgeous babe!

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    1. Ida thank you :) I feel very fortunate that I can stay at home! I really enjoy your blog!

      ~Victoria

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  2. Thanks for stopping by my blog! Adding you to bloglovin!!

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  3. I felt the same way when I became a SAHM. Even though it was planned and I was so happy & fortunate that I could stay home & soak up every minute of LO growing up. I also grieved that first year. I was sad to leave my job and tried to imagine how I could have done it "all." Which I couldn't. It was a lot of intense change. By the time LO was 1, I felt better about it all. Again,don't get me wrong, I loved every minute with LO and would have been sad if I missed his first smile or word, but making the transition is a huge adjustment.

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    1. Scarlett I totally agree about grieving. I never thought about it that way! And it is very very intense. I think that hardest part is the transition, once I get past this hump I think it will be easier. But I do get jealous when my husband goes off to work every morning, but then I couldn't imagine myself doing it...but I can fantasize ;)

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  4. I taught for 8 years and am just now staying home with my kids after being a working mom. It is quite an adjustment, but I am thankful everyday for the opportunity. I was missing so many hours with my kids when I was teaching. When my husband got a job that could cover our expenses, it was a no brainer to finally transition to being a SAHM. I do miss my colleagues and students though!

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